Don’t push ideas; focus on solutions Published in The Tennessean December 1, 2014 By Ed Rappuhn – SCORE Nashville “Coworkers, customers, and even my wife, say I’m a bit pushy but I can’t help myself. How can I come across as having the other person’s best interest at heart?” I feel your pain. Most people believe their ideas are best and if others would just listen the world would be a better place. At SCORE, our counselors go through a training program that, when followed, makes our mentoring sessions much more productive. The process is based on the acronym, SLATE. Stop and suspend judgment Listen and learn Assess and analyze Test ideas Expectation setting Stop and suspend judgment. Clients come to me dressed poorly or with an idea that, at first thought, is doomed to failure. Many high tech projects would never get off the ground if the appearance of the ratty blue-jeaned, t-shirted idea guy were the key to success. And just because an idea doesn’t appeal to you does not mean it is not irresistible to a different demographic. Don’t miss out on a great opportunity because of your prejudices. Listen and learn. You have two ears and one mouth; you should listen twice as much as...
Learn MoreBusiness owners often find that the most persuasive conversations are not about broadcasting ideas but about understanding what the other person truly needs. When a meeting shifts from presenting solutions to listening for problems, trust builds faster and decisions come more naturally. Mentors and counselors frequently remind entrepreneurs that effective communication begins with curiosity rather than conviction, allowing a business owner to respond to real concerns instead of rehearsed talking points.
Workshops and webinars offered through small business resource organizations are designed around this same principle. Participants practice active listening, refine their questioning skills, and learn how to set clear goals without overselling. By focusing on solutions tailored to each situation, owners improve customer relationships, strengthen sales conversations, and reduce the pushy tone that can unintentionally alienate coworkers, clients, and even family members who may feel unheard during important discussions.
Strategic planning benefits enormously from this shift in emphasis. Rather than promoting a single preferred path, successful planning invites input from advisors, employees, and mentors who can highlight blind spots. Volunteer counselors often guide owners through structured decision-making frameworks, helping them weigh options, allocate financial resources, and develop marketing strategies grounded in what customers actually want. This collaborative planning approach tends to produce more durable results than top-down pronouncements.
Ultimately, a small business thrives when its owner treats every conversation as an opportunity to serve. Setting listening goals before meetings, asking better questions, and following up with thoughtful solutions transforms routine interactions into lasting relationships. Whether at the boardroom table or in casual encounters, focusing on the other person’s success builds a reputation for reliability that no advertising budget can purchase, creating long-term stability for the enterprise.